Life revolves around the relationship we have with ourselves the world and the people we love. Nothing is more important and we know this. We know how bad life can feel when our relationships are struggling. We need for our lives to not go unwitnessed. For someone to share our lives with and to know we were here once we have gone.
There are dating websites, personalized fashion experts, bars, restaurants, makeup, cologne, perfume all designed and used to help us find a partner. Whether they are successful or not, people will spend thousands of dollars in hope that it will help. When getting married, there are an overwhelming amount of vendors, planners and suppliers only happy to help you spend $10,000 and upwards for your special day.
We are happy to seek help and spend enormous amounts of money in search of a partner in this life and in celebration of finding one, yet some how most of us don’t seek help for our actual relationship. In fact it goes further than this because there is a stigma to seeking this help. There must be something wrong with your relationship if you need counselling, right? It’s actually the opposite. Seeking support is a sign of an aware couple who are committed to staying together. Look at the divorce rates. 40% of Canadian Marriages end in Divorce. I think most of us could make an educated assumption that far more than 40% of people do not seek outside help for their relationship. We don’t invest half as much energy, thought or money in what is actually the most important relationship in our lives, next to the one we have with ourselves. Are we to think we can do it alone? That it’s ok to need help for everything else but with relationships, we’ve got that covered?
If our relationships are to survive then we must invest in them and seek support when needed. This is where Couples or Marriage Counselling can help. We do not come into a relationship as a clean slate. A relationship is a marriage of two family systems, a merging of what we could call two foreign languages. Unless these languages can be translated, understood and formulated into something unique for the couple then trouble will inevitably follow!
Conflict is a normal part of healthy relationships. Effective communication is key if you are to learn and grow from conflict and not let it destroy that loving bond with your partner. My work with couples starts here, using fantastic proven tools for communication and putting them to use to resolve all present and future issues.
I take a unique approach to helping because no couple is the same. My Couples and Marriage Counselling sessions involves a tailored approach of both individual sessions and couples sessions.
Whether you choose Counselling or not, my message is simply to remember to invest in and nurture your relationships.
Make your relationship Limitless!